So from what I have gathered from elliott hulse, there are 3 brains. The mind, the heart and the balls. In that order. So you can have the head and not have any of the other brains. But you can only access the balls brain from the heart brain.
The head brain or our neocortex is everything about analyzing, our most used brain. Playing video games? you’re using your neocortex, anything to do with school uses this brain. This brain has the power to shut off the rest of the brains.
How this refers to me, is that we’re all basically neurotic. We think far too much, over think things, analyze the best decisions, gathering information and facts. What’s wrong with that is that portion is only pretty much 5% of your brain. Its very easy to control people with information. Very easy. Also this has to do with release, it is very difficult to release all the gathered up energies through your mind because it is usually the one that restricts the energies that you would want to release.
Too much energy inside you can overload your system and cause breakdowns, fits of anger and so on. Myself I get frustrated rather easily and can get a temper. Although I don’t usually show it out.
In order to maintain this I would need to ‘mini breakdown’ more often. Which is releasing at regular intervals rather than a huge breakdown. A huge depression. Those mini breakdowns will help you grow, those major breakdowns are a risk, they can destroy you or make you grow into another level. This brings me to the heart brain.
The heart brain is associated with emotion, care for others, memory, learning. An example of this is playing an instrument, singing, anything physical. Imagine singing perfectly, it may be perfect but you don’t put any emotion into it, you haven’t actually released. Musicians move a lot because they have connected their interest with their bodies. When you connect it with your body you enjoy it that much more. Another thing is learning, you learn better when you actually do things than just learning theory. Mostly its because we are visual learners, which is why I started writing in multi coloured pens.
So the heart brain is quite important for release, essentially exercise or anything that can involve your body will help you release. Most of us are stiff in some way or another, have a lot of tension. Like when you’re angry, do you feel your shoulders start to tense? Also we aren’t breathing properly, breathing is very important. It can help you calm down, get energy… and until I get the chance help you last longer in bed. So I invite you to take a deep breath. Trust you’ll instantly feel 5% better.
Which brings me to the balls brain.
The balls brain is our instinctual brain, (things such as breathing, our autonomic nervous system, sleep, heartbeat, Four Fs (Feeding, Fight, flight and fucking))
The way to connect to this part of the brain is by breathing deeply, which is only possible if tension is removed from other parts of the body. Which is why the balls can only be accessed through the body. Another thing to mention is every time you make a decision, do you often find yourself asking other people for their opinions? You’re just using your neocortex, analyzing the given information to bring about the best choice. But what you don’t ever do is rely on the source, your own instinct, your gut feeling.
I always find that I ask people for their opinion before making mine… Which isn’t good because I have always been indecisive, making me unable to think or decide for myself which has put me in a lot of trouble. The constant needing of other’s opinions can annoy them.
Also another thing with instinct, situations like you have this inner gut feeling to: tell someone what you think, your feelings about them, holding their hand, kissing, smelling, playing with their hair… That’s what your instinct tells you. You should do it. But as I described earlier the head brain is so powerful it can shut these instincts off.
In the case of a guy, you’d seem kind of a …pussy if you hesitate. That can screw your love life over. You hesitate, keep procrastinating then you’ll never ever do any of those things. Then if you take too long you get friendzoned as you’re not aggressive enough. Too tender. Too nice guy.
You could be safe, but for how long? In terms of college, there’s only a few months left with the people you are with.. if you don’t say what you instinctively want to say, you may never get that chance ever again.
Risk and regret or Safe and regret?
PAIN is good. Pain helps us grow, without it we would never learn, we would never evolve and become stronger, wiser and more experienced.
Now that I’ve come to the realization of this, I’ve started doing slightly more daring things than I would have done in the past…
Like the other post, I went out to central and actually grew half a ball to tell a girl she was cute. That’s some breakthrough stuff for me.
Asking a girl out on a date…buying her a birthday present…
A introvert has difficulties doing this. Yet I still did it.
It ties in with Patrick, I want to show him that it can be done. Not just with some dudes on the videos but actually seeing someone do it. I always explain, you can have all the theory in the world. But it is utterly useless if you cannot apply it.
If he’s reading this, he would have heard all about this already. But just to make sure…
Summarising all the brain stuff. He and as I and as most of us are ‘floating heads’ We have no emotion, we are part of the system and we breakdown easily… just like iphones, i earphones..
Too much overthinking, too much theory and no practical. Get in your body, harness the power within it, you shall enjoy life more, enjoy being you more, CONTROL yourself that much better. Go with your instinct, everytime your neocortex says hell no, do it anyway. Fear? neocortex saying hello, throw shit in its face by doing that fear.
Fears are conquered by doing them. I still fear heights. I’ll need to rectify that problem one day.
So I invite everyone who reads this all the way to the bottom…
Await the next post, as this has gone on far too long. So here I am releasing all my inner thought energies. As soon as I started bang, flood of text appears. I myself am quite amazed and how much I had to type.
Whether people read it or not, I like to think that this can be a place to eat stuff then shit it out on here. So I’m going to start shitting, maybe not in huge chunks. But a bit at a time.
So far what’s happened during the last post and since I’ve entered the den of college for another year?
I found quite a few things, realising that I’ve started developing myself more, its slowed now. But I’ll try pick it up again.
First and foremost the biggest development and understanding of myself is through my connection with Patrick. The description of him can be described as : Non confident, socially awkward (high degree), dating sim gamer, Goal oriented person, ‘Depends’ attitude, introverted, procrastinates alot… you get the picture.
Some of those qualities can be found in me, they’re not the most valuable qualities to have are they? What I’ve been trying to do, is get him out of his shell, try to invite him to loosen up, enjoy life more and take opportunities when he gets them. So in retro respect its like finding the things that can improve myself whilst helping him improve himself.
I’m only a few steps above him, that’s the only reason I’m able to help him and invite him. I don’t wish to force anyone to do anything, but if they do it out of their own accord they progress more by themselves.
Since he is a goal oriented person he wants those A levels. The Letter on a piece of paper, cool. He chose to study computer science in university, he’s having doubts and regrets about that decision now.
As for myself I’m just there in college, I just do enough to get teachers claws off my back. Which allows me to be the opposite side of the spectrum, people who work hard all day long versus someone who doesn’t work that hard and survives. I’m here just to support him, since physics and maths are some of the hardest subjects out there. I told him the only way we can survive those subjects is to combine our brain powers. That’s the only way, we’ll never catch up to the higher class students because of our personality traits and our viewpoints on life.
The most funny thing is in maths we work together on the homework and I usually score more marks than he does, yet he is a C+ student whilst I’m a E+ student.
A lot of things I’ve learnt about myself using him as a medium.
One thing I tried to do to get him out of his shell was say HI to random people in college, I myself did it to show that it could be done. He didn’t do it. Another try. We went central with duck and tried to talk to random people. I had my turn told the tokyotoys girl she was cute. My niece told a girl she was cute but didn’t fare so well. Then it was his turn, he didn’t attempt at all. He was very tight, even when with us, people he knew. HE didn’t say much to us. We tried another tactic, the signboards saying FREE HUGS, no dice. After that we decided to depart since it was late.
This is all I got time for now…. College calls. Physics calls (oh dear) But I am sitting next to someone I like. Which will be explained another post.